Support Your Partner
- Ashleigh Atwood
- Jan 12
- 3 min read
I don’t normally talk about my marriage.
I try to keep him off of here as much as possible due to his privacy and preferences.
I’m an oversharerer and my husband is a share nothing haha
But I wanted to talk really quick about something I’ve noticed in my marriage recently.
My husband and I are bipolar opposite in everything.
He is kind, quiet, reserved.
I’m blunt, wild, and often unpredictable.
Even our love languages are opposite!
His highest scoring love language is my lowest scoring and vice versa.
We are a perfect example of “opposites attract.”
That being said, it’s no surprise that our hobbies and passions share zero overlap.
I’m mean absolutely none.
He’s a chef.
I’m a tax accountant.
He’s creative and loves to cook.
I crunch numbers and love Excel formulas.
No similarities.
Recently, I’ve picked up diamond painting again.
I’ve started a vitamin regiment that has helped my inability to focus on one task at a time, so now I’m equipped to sit there and focus on this hobby.
Whitman has zero interest in diamond art.
He doesn’t have the patience or a drop of OCD to be able to find enjoyment in the task.
However, he’ll stand there and tell me what a great job I’ve done and act genuinely interested when I share my process.
He supports me and encourages me despite having no desire to pursue such a trivial hobby.
My husband’s passion has everything to do with fitness!
Going to the gym, lifting, protein shakes, vitamins, the whole shebang.
I loathe any type of movement.
I always have.
I also wouldn’t be caught dead in a gym where I think everyone is staring at me and can tell I have no idea what I’m doing 😂
I still encourage him to go to the gym. I still brag about his progress. I still ask about what body group he did today like I know what muscle group he’s talking about.
That’s marriage.
I love that my husband and I are nothing alike.
I would go insane if I had a 4th me in this house.
I would hate him for being a “yes wife” and never pushing me to do better next time.
We wouldn’t be together today if we did everything together.
This week, I encourage you to support your partner even if you have no idea the words that are coming out of their mouth.
My husband will never sit and do crafts.
I will never drink pre workout and sweat in front of strangers.
But that doesn’t stop either if us from motivating the other to keep doing it.
I’ll close out with this disclaimer:
I am not a marriage/relationship expert.
My marriage is not perfect.
I make mistakes everyday in my delivery of frustrations.
We bicker at times still.
So please do not take this post as an attack on your relationship because you don’t support your partner’s every move.
Neither do I, in all honesty 😂
Take what you can, and leave the rest.
Or don’t.
I am not the picture perfect example of sanity or levelheadedness by any means.
I do, however, have a successful marriage of almost 8 years and counting that has been full of learning on the go!
Meet your partner where they are at.
You won’t regret it!
Until next time…
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